the one with the 10
It realli amazes me sometimes,how emotions can actually go into auto-pilot. Anyways, im just gonna keep quiet and remain neutral. Its my turn to watch , i alreadi got golden horse award, so i just diam diam ba.
Life hasnt been that kind to me, although i still think my life is much better then 80% of the people around the world. Watched HOME, a documentary to promote Save Gaia. Once again, something in me moved when i watched how the documentary was shot. The global inbalance in financial status, the poor get poorer and the rich get richer by exploiting the earth resources.
Im not a super go green person, but im still moved by the documentary. Once again im reminded, that while im involved and obsessed with some small and stupid stuffs, there are people who didnt even have the luxury to mull over such issues. What's on their mind, is how to survive till the next day, everyday.
Its not only this documentary that struck a cord with me, there's this other short film that won the 2008 Best short film at a Europe award called '10 Mins'. Go youtube it, its very inspiring and its a masterpiece. The Bosnian War scene was shot in 1 continuous take and its realli a directing masterpiece with a message behind it. I like stuffs with a meaning behind it. =)
Alrite, i shall list out 10 experiences that made this guy a stupid fuck. Yeah, u heard it, stupid fuck. Kinda painful ya know, but things gonna be learnt the hard way, and yeah, im still a stupid fuck. hahaha.
1) Never be too nice to a gal. Too nice, and u are simply heading down the 'Brother' or 'Bestie' road. I dun mean being nasty to her lah, but save the mushy mushy stuffs after she's yours. If not, dun bother.
2) This might sound stupid, but well, do not let her know how much you like her. Keep her in suspense and you are effectively keeping the ball in your park. Never demonstrate that you are 100% into her, if not, she might either make use of you, or manipulate you in some other ways, but never accept you.
3) No matter how strong the urge, do not sms or call her too much. As per above, guys tend to exhibit a insane tendency to sms or call the gal everyday. If she likes you, u dun contact her, she also will contact you lah. If she dun like you, you call 1 million times also useless, you're only fucking irritating to her. So there, do not, i repeat DO NOT contact her 'turbo-ly'. Show her that you can control yourself.
4) Hang up the god damn phone if you find the conversation draggy. I've not chatted on the phone for more then 5 yrs, but from previous telephony experiences from Sec skool and Poly days, its best to hang up. Noone enjoys silence over the phone when you can hear the wind blowing or their mum screaming. Nothing to say, hang up. Period.
5) There is infact, no such thing as chemistry or sparks. Yes, i know people might disagree with me here, but if a person likes you, he or she will slowly adapt. You will start to learn the habits and likings of each other, so bit by bit, things will start to gel. Infact, if u like him/her enough, u will go research and understand more on her/his interests. Its not about giving up your identity, its about the effort that you make to understand someone you say you love.
6) Always make sure you are very sure of how you feel before taking the plunge. Never go in uncertain, uncertainty always screws things up. Never gamble on others' feelings, it always leads to an unsightly ending, and the entire world will know you're a fucking bastard. Yeah, the entire world, communication is veri advanced now.
7) Things always happen for a reason. If you dun get the gal, dun despair, cause it might be god's way of protecting you. Yes, u heard rite. Most prob after you get together with her, your career might crash, or some fucking satellite might land on you. Fate is something that protects you, not ridicule you. I know, you can tell me thousands of "if's" and "what if's", but dun imagine things, you are not god, you cannot make things move the way you want it. That's the fact. And you cant be with her, is also a fact. Accept it.
8) Never say never. Do not swear to god that you will never fall for him/her, cause god might not only be the one laughing at your sorry ass. Seriously, noone knows what will happen, and the onli certainty in the world is uncertainty. Therefore do not say that you will never fall for him/her, you REALLI never know what will happen sia. nb.
9) Beauty is onli skin deep. Trust me, all my life, i dare not say i've been in any relationships, but i've been frends with the best of them. The best gals i've known in my 26 yrs are not extremely pretty, infact, average looking, but they realli do have a angelic aura around them. Nice, refined, perfect in every sensible sense. And the worst gals i've known are well, the top of the range in the looks department. But im thankful, i found a diamond in the rough, but too bad its NEVER gonna work and im just thankful she didnt hire assassin to kill me. hiak hiak hiak. (oh fuck, i said never, which contradicts point 8. Um well, this is an exception, it realli is never. hahaha)
10) A final point to take note is, things are like a see-saw, the secret is always balance. You give, you take. Things are not gonna last if you keep giving and not taking, same goes vice versa. The hardest part in relationship maintainence is keeping a balance in everything. Never have the notion that when u keep giving and not taking, you're a perfect man. Perfection is a sin, and people hate sinners. Like i have said before, and i always will say, 2 imperfect persons make a perfect couple.
Special Point ) If things ended, let it end. When a relationship fails, there is always a reason, therefore dun try to drag things and let the reason hurt each other further. Get together, cherish every moment, and in the unfortunate event it ends, smile and let it end.
The precious lessons that life taught me will always be with me, no matter where i go. I always believed im a man meant to do great things, and there are times where the going gets tough and i start to doubt myself. But then again, men are like iron ore, we all need to be forged in the fires of hardships in order to become steel. Therefore all the bad stuffs are actually just there for me to learn and grow, and there are all part and parcel of the journey to become the man i was destined to be.
